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I got a DM this morning that was so real .... And the question made my heart squeeze a little. If you are parenting more than one child, you know this heavy weight. It is perhaps the biggest, most nagging source of daily guilt. Here are some ways i try to manage without burning myself out ..😊 1. 𝙎𝙝𝙞𝙛𝙩 𝙔𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙈𝙞𝙣𝙙𝙨𝙚𝙩: 𝙁𝙖𝙞𝙧 𝙙𝙤𝙚𝙨𝙣𝙩 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣 𝙀𝙦𝙪𝙖𝙡 🟰 The biggest trap we parents fall into is trying to make everything "even." If one child gets a new pair of shoes, we feel guilty if we don't buy Child B something too. 😔 The Reality: "Equal" means everyone gets the same thing. "Fair" means everyone gets what they need. If one child has an ear infection, we give them antibiotics. We don’t give the healthy child antibiotics just to be "equal." 2. 𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 "𝗦𝗽𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗧𝗶𝗺𝗲" (10 𝗠𝗶𝗻𝘂𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗮 𝗗𝗮𝘆) Kids don't need us 24/7; they need to know that they are a priority. "Special Time" is my secret weapon. How do I do it - 10–15 minutes per child, per day. No phones, no chores, no siblings allowed. They choose what you do ( kavya chooses activities , while Garvit loved playing Memory chess) If they want to just lie on the bed and talk, you do that. When a child’s "attention bucket" is filled proactively, they stop fighting for your attention negatively (whining, hitting the sibling) etc 3. 𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗘𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗖𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱 "𝗨𝗻𝗶𝗾𝘂𝗲𝗹𝘆," 𝗡𝗼𝘁 "𝗘𝗾𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆" When you tell kids "I love you both the same," they often don't believe you. They are constantly keeping score. Instead, focus on their uniqueness. Don't say: "I love you just as much as your sister." Do say: "I love you because you are the only kavya in the whole world. I love how you run your nose . No one else is like you." This removes the competition. They aren't fighting for a generic "love unit"; they are secure in their specific place in your heart. 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝘄 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗜 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 .. 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 🅢🅔🅝🅓 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 share 𝗺𝘆 𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹 𝗴𝘂𝗶𝗱𝗲. [ Parent guilt, mom of 2, parenting struggles, ]

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This post was published on 11th December, 2025 by Divya on her Instagram handle "@kavyaislife (Divya Bhatia | partner in your parenting journey)". Divya has total 74.1K followers on Instagram and has a total of 1.4K post.This post has received 69 Likes which are lower than the average likes that Divya gets. Divya receives an average engagement rate of 0.17% per post on Instagram. This post has received 57 comments which are greater than the average comments that Divya gets. Overall the engagement rate for this post was lower than the average for the profile.