
When your 8-year-old see friends receive an invitation card while they sit empty-handed, it feels like a public humiliation. As a parent our instict is "Protective Mode." And we want to - ❌ Call the other mom and ask "Kya hua? ❌ Or to make our children happy we say - "Chhod na, we will go to Hamleys and buy a bigger toy!" ❌ Badmouth the other kid ("Wo waise bhi badmaash hai) But this will confirm their fear that they are "weak." Here is the 3 ways to to build resilience instead: 1. Validate the "Shame" (Not just the sadness) The pain isn't just missing the party; it's being left out in front of others. Say: "I know that must have felt really embarrassing in the bus. It takes a lot of courage to sit through that. I am proud of how you handled it." 2. Explain the friend circle concept At 8, kids confuse "Classmate" with "Friend." Help them sort their circles. Say: " you play with Kiara in the van, but do you meet him on weekends? No. That means you are 'Van Friends,' not 'Birthday Friends.' And that is okay. We have different friends for different things." 3. The Home Comfort Don't offer a distraction reward (no "I'll buy you chocolate"). Offer connection. Say: "I know your heart is hurting. Come, let's make poha and lets play together. Just us." The Lesson: We cannot force the world to invite our children. But we can make sure that when they come home, they feel like the most important guest of honor. ❤️ #gentleparenting #momlife #indianmoms #8yearold #socialskills
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