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Most of us panic and say: ❌ "That's not true, of course people like you!" ❌ "You just need to be friendlier." ❌ "Stop being so sensitive." All said with love. All land like rejection. Here's what's actually happening in their brain: At 8–10, your child's social identity is forming for the first time. "Do people like me?" isn't a small question at this age. It's how they're building their entire sense of self-worth. When they feel invisible at school, their brain triggers the same stress response as physical danger. Their cortisol spikes. Their body goes into protection mode. And they come home and say "nobody likes me" — not for attention. As a cry for help they don't have words for yet. ✅ What to do instead: 1. Don't fix. Don't correct. Just stay. Sit down. Put your phone away. Say: "Tell me more about that." 2. Validate the feeling, not the story. "It makes sense you feel that way. That sounds really lonely." You're not agreeing nobody likes them. You're agreeing that their pain is real. 3. Ask the one question that changes everything: "Is there one person at school who makes you feel even a little okay?" One name. That's the thread you build from. 4. Don't call the school. Not yet. Your first job is to be their safe landing place — not their fixer. If you go into problem-solving mode too fast, they stop telling you things. 5. Check in again at bedtime. The second conversation is always deeper than the first. Your child doesn't need you to prove them wrong. They need you to prove that you are the one person who will always make them feel seen. That's what heals this. 💾 Save this — you'll need it. 📤 Send this to a parent whose child is struggling socially right now.

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This post was published on 09th June, 2026 by Divya on her Instagram handle "@kavyaislife (Divya Bhatia | partner in your parenting journey)". Divya has total 73.1K followers on Instagram and has a total of 1.4K post.This post has received 25 Likes which are lower than the average likes that Divya gets. Divya receives an average engagement rate of 0.14% per post on Instagram. This post has received 1 comments which are lower than the average comments that Divya gets. Overall the engagement rate for this post was lower than the average for the profile.